Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Mom, HOW do you DO that?

Usually if your child looks at you admiringly and asks how you do something you just feel like the best mom in the world. Not so much after this conversation...
I was sitting with Blondie and Cheesie on the couch reading one of their American Girl books out loud. I know T-Rex enjoyed these books when she was in 3rd grade, so in an effort to expose Blondie to experiences other girls her age might have, I'm reading them aloud (scroll down to see past posts about reading).
I'm reading right along, and we're learning how Molly is going to put together a tea party, when Blondie stops me and says, "How do you do that?"

Me: Do what?

Blondie: Keep track of who's talking and make their voice.

Me: Well, I read a lot and when I read I make it into a movie in my head, and when I read I can also remember what is going on in the movie.

Blondie: I can't.

Me: Can't what?

Blondie: I can't remember my movie and read, or read and remember my movie.

Me: We'll just have to practice.


And then I went back to reading aloud because honestly, Cheesie was sitting on the other side of me and her precocious little self was about to jump into the conversation with how she could do what I do, and we don't need to be reminded that our little sister can easily do things we can't.


So then I took Blondie to the bookstore and we bought Henry and Beezus (which cannot be read alone by her, but I don't care because she was interested)and we will find a place without Cheesie to practice reading that probably while we hang out at the lake.


The American Girl books aren't particularly difficult to read, but there is a lot of history in them that the little girls don't have any connection too, so we're using them as a way to start talking about those things. We've learned about bottle caps (and point out coke bottles every time we go to the store), and that people kept gardens like we do, and girls wore dresses pretty much everywhere, and that families had people in a war far away (like the soldiers we handed cookies to), and that kids were sent away from the war to stay safe, and that girls went to camp that looked a lot like Camp Congaree, etc. Then the little girls run go get the millions of dollars were of stuff that resides in our house from the American Girl store, and play tea party, or camping, or bomb shelter (it's in the book).


I like to read books a little above the girls, and while this one isn't tough, I want to pre-expose Blondie to things that other kids just have to hear once. I want it percolating in her head long before she needs it so she isn't playing catch up, and since I know that if I read it to her, or she experiences it she learns it MUCH faster than if I send her off to stumble over words in a text book - so I read aloud a LOT. She also reads books to me, but my goal there is purely word attack and fluency - I'm not even really working on comprehension.


So if you have a hemi kid in the early grades (or any kid having a tough time reading), I would suggest (as a mom, and as a teacher) that you check out your state's learning standards and find out what is going to be covered in science and social studies this year, and start gently offering your child a knowlege base from which to start. It seems to be working with our daughter, but it still hurts that she is starting to understand that she can't do something easily.

2 comments:

  1. You sure hit on areas we're working on with these internationally adopted children. I can see them beside their same aged peers and they are "behind" but still smart. Some of the areas I'm probably glad they are behind in .... like the street smarts and such. :D I've been looking at different state standards and we do standardized testing through BJU. But, no matter how much I expose one, she just doesn't retain anything much unless it's related to some aspects of LA, Math, and Spelling. Science and History has to be covered several times on each topic. She has CAPD quite much. Her listening skills (auditory processing) are on 2nd grade level even though she's "reading" not comprehending on a fifth grade and spelling on a sixth grade level. She can get 100% on quite a few areas on the IOWA but can't "listen". As long as she doesn't have to use cause and effect or reasoning, she can do anything. But ... we all know how far that will get her. The malnutrition, neglect and lead exposure in China for the first 6 years has changed her mentally I believe. She's had 6 years of speech therapy and still is speaking in broken sentences.

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  2. Hi Kelly, I'm not sure if this will reach you. I work for Saebo, Inc. I came across your blog and was so touched by Blondie's story. I am very interested in her story and seeing if you might be interested in letting us put together something that would focus on her and her progress. You can email me at lcassidy@saebo.com or call me at 888.284.5433.
    Thank you!
    Leanne

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